There’s an episode of Sex and the City in season one where Carrie talks to Big about wanting to having sex like a man – completely detached. And Big responds by saying “Baby, then you’ve obviously never been in love.”

I didn’t get it the first time I heard this, but I completely relate to it now.

First off, let me just say, I’m 24, female, and living in the 21st century so it shouldn’t come as a surprise that I’m sexually active. But what does surprise me is that I don’t want to have casual sex. At least not anymore. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with one night stands and I admire my girls who have them. They’re probably having way more fun than I am.

And yeah it’s a little awkward when my guy friend goes to rub my shoulders and is like “holy shit you’re tense. You clearly haven’t been touched in a while. At least not properly.” (90 minute massage scheduled for tomorrow btdubs). Not to mention I have to keep up on my yoga to maintain my flexibility. And I probably wouldn’t have so much road rage.

For me, though, after being intimate with someone who knew me backwards and forwards, inside and out, it’s undesirable to hand over my body to a guy who doesn’t know my favorite color. Maybe I’m too conservative, but I think sex will always mean something to me. And when it comes down to it, there’s nothing better than good sex. And there’s nothing worse than ruining a friendship by jumping into sex too quickly. Or worse, throwing away a potential relationship for a little messing around.