G i r l s s u p p o r t i n g g i r l s.
THIS IS IMPORTANT. And vastly underrated.
I live in L.A., on da westside, in a house (i.e. large, old apartment) with two successful ladies. I go to work every day with cool collection of women/girls/females of all ages. I attend church with a swarm of beauties. I’m constantly texting with a handful of ladies who are endeavoring after their own goals. And I spend my days double tappin’ the Instas of girls who are KILLIN the game.
It would be so easy to feel defeated. To look at girls who have what I want and think, “What’s the point?”
However – the strongest resource I’ve found to maintain sanity and motivation (beside my Main Omniscient Being, God, obvi) is other women who are hustling. Hard.
And honestly, this network extends to a gaggle of great men as well (Term used loosely. Quite a few are still boys but trying hard. A for effort.)
Southern California is filled to the brim with people who are slaying, who are motivated to make something of themselves. It’s probably due to all the Vitamin D, endorphins, and caffeine, but regardless it can get pretty competitive. The best thing, though, is how thick the support system is.
Krista Williams (The Hundred Blog) and Lindsey Simcik (SoulCycle) have this killer podcast Almost30 (click here to dive in). My rooms, Steph, and I are constantly trading notes about the newest episode. I go into business meetings with local LA companies and the girls I meet with are equally obsessed. This podcast is killing the game because they’re addressing that transition from 20’s to your 30’s (which has so many negative connotations, but is SO GOOD).
The biggest change I’ve noticed in my own life, which is exemplified on their podcast – is girls supporting girls. Not only do they cheer/coax/compliment one another, but they have these other rockstar ladies on the show, whom they do the same for.
THIS IS HOW YOU SURVIVE THIS RAT RACE GUYS.
Enough of the insinuated competition. I wouldn’t have made it this far in life without my ladies. All of them. Even the ones I no longer talk to on the reg for whatever reason. I am eternally grateful to every single one of you.
T H A N K Y O U.
You are chapters in my book that contribute to my plot line, my climaxes, my conclusions, my character development.
So I guess this post has two intentions – go listen to Almost30 (Here’s the link again so you don’t have to scroll up. Yes I’m making the assumption that you’re as lazy as me.), but also, feel confident in yourself, so confident you can overflow support onto others. You won’t regret it.
(Wise, motivational whale.)
I know it’s not easy – but just do it. Make time for someone. Compliment someone. Love on someone unconditionally. Support a project, physically or verbally. Share something cool on your Facebook wall. Double tap when you feel insecure. Open up and become vulnerable, or allow someone else to without judgement. Pray for other’s successes. Appreciate the hustle and how different it is from yours. Find someone who’s hustling just like you and commiserate or collaborate.
I’m gunna be honest – sometimes people will think you’re a little weird; like why are you so nice? Meh, whatevs. While we’re here on this planet, all we tangibly have is each other. We’re basically sisters and brothers. Let’s love on one another. Let’s propagate the ever expanding support system.
Categories: Musings & Epiphanies